Comparison Leading to Envy

This phenomenon of comparing yourself to others is often in the social context of competition or comparison. Jealousy or envy are secret emotions. Thus, these emotions metaphorically have invisible measuring yardsticks that come out when feelings of being less than someone rears up. Why would someone desire to have the life of someone else? 

Generally, pressure is being in a position of always trying to be someone you are not. A significant way you define yourself has to do with ideas, ambitions, and what you value. How you measure yourself is likely to change as you mature and as you learn to evaluate your potentialities and accept your limitations. It is important to keep realistic ideals that you can generally live up to. Perhaps your self-regard will not be threatened by a need to compare your life if your ideals are not exaggerated, and you can reach them. 

Most importantly, learning to love yourself unconditionally is necessary to hold an ideal image of yourself and to an overemphasized version of what others can provide. When we believe in ourselves, self-confidence increases. Hence, letting go of comparing and competition, can really elevate ourselves and nullify those emotions. 

After all, there are countless daily challenges already rearing in our day-to-day interactions, so let us avoid unnecessary mental burdens. Part of living a happier life is recognizing triggers and purposefully avoiding them. Make it a priority to self-evaluate so that things that mentally cause harm have no power. Our overall health is physically and mentally better when living a mentally happy life.

Dr. Stredic, EdD 🦋

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