Reacting to Life's Curve Balls

Life pitches unsuspected things at us all the time. Surprising things like finding 20-dollar bills in our pockets while doing laundry can be great. Yet, many of them don’t, such as nearly missing a flight because of long security lines. Often, unexpected events can be much more serious, such as sickness or a job loss. These kinds of events can be quite distressing

How do you become more successful at dealing with life’s curve balls? How we react depends on whether we are ready to tackle and face situations. Recently, I have been researching whole life insurance. I know that if I should pass away my family will need to continue living comfortably. I am planning for the unexpected curve ball that death can bring. Part of reacting to unforeseen things is knowing that surprising things happen. 

Although you can’t control the occurrence of unexpected situations, you can control how you respond, and that can make all the difference in how you feel and how you deal with distressing issues.

What you need to rely on most during these difficult times is your ability to think creatively and solve problems. However, research shows that negative emotions such as fear, fury, and defeat can cause your brain’s decision-making component, responsible for problem-solving, to constrict and work less effectively. On the other hand, positive emotions help your brain generate more creative solutions to distressful situations.

No one can avoid unexpected situations. However, we can manage how we react by being prepared mentally. 

Seek support from others you trust. Social support is important, so reach out to family and friends.

Ask for help. Find a life coach psychologist to help you develop healthy ways to manage stress.

Control what you can. Develop routines to give your days and weeks some comforting structure.

Engage in self-care. Make efforts to eat well, exercise, and get enough sleep. Many people find stress release in practices such as yoga and meditation.

Avoid dwelling on things you cannot control. Get out of the habit of ruminating on negative events.

Reflect on past successes of moving past unpleasant things.  Reflect on what you did during that event that was helpful and what you might like to do differently this time.

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